Wedding Money: Silent Golden Rule - Be Dishonest about Your Finances
By Dr. Taffy Wagner, CEPF, WedNet Specialist Blogger on Wedding Money, http://www.DebtAtTheAltar.com
You’re shopping with your friends and continuing to spend beyond your wedding day expenses. You are having the time of your life hanging out with your best friends without a care in the world. Later on that evening after you have parted ways, you conscious begins talking to you. Conscious says, “You should not have spent money on those items today.” Of course the shopper in you says, “Oh, everything will be fine, he will never know.” Sure it may seem like that right now because he is not there.
You take a deep breath of relief knowing that once again you have shopped and overspent. As far as you are concerned, there is a “Silent Golden rule that allows you to be dishonest about your finances.” Dishonest in the fact that you are choosing not to tell him and this very act right now can carry over into your marriage. If you shop now, overspend and do not divulge that you have been shopping, what is going to happen once you are married? Will this overspending affect the household finances? What happens if the groom is doing the same thing? OOOH – imagine both of you coming to the table one night to discuss the other’s finances only to discover that each of you have been doing the same thing. So much for a golden rule --.that rule actually works against the marriage and not for the marriage. Lay your cards on the table openly knowing that you are thinking beyond the wedding day.