The Conversation!
Greetings!
As always, my hope is that you are in a great place as you continue or begin your wedding planning.
In remembering my "process" I remember our meeting with the Priest who we hoped would "marry" us. Not having grown up in the faith of my soon to be husband, it was important for the Priest and myself to be comfortable with each other. I was so moved by his understanding and acceptance of me as well as his honest questions. Those questions pertained to life...not faith. He made us face certain inevitabilities like acquiring each others debt, Yikes!
All to often young people marry without considering what financial baggage they bring to the table (student loans, credit card debt, car payments, etc.) and how they are going to manage it or where each person stands on having kids -if any to how many. It is important not to wait until months or years after the wedding to have this conversation . Lay it out on the table.
I encourage you to have "the conversation" now. This is the time to be on the same page...even if you don't agree in the beginning. Compromise is a very important tool in a successful marriage now is as good a time as any to start using it. You never know, you may learn an awful lot about your partner during this discussion. Read this article for questions you may want to ask your soon-to-be betrothed http://www.wednet.com/articles/homeresponsibilities.aspx and be prepared to share your thoughts and feelings about the issues in this article as well.
I am still learning things about my husband....12 years later, this is a good thing.
What do you think? Are you ready to initiate the conversation? Do you think it is an important thing to do? Let us know?
Until next time...Live, Laugh, Love!
Lee